Understanding The Power of Grief…

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Never under estimate the power of grief, as it impacts each one of us differently.

I see many people who say they are not sure if they experienced this, some say never and others may admit to it but most deny it… Whether it be grief, loss or sadness it’s all very similar and what many don’t realise is, there is so many stages to grieving that you may be experiencing this, just in a different way to what you have previously had explained…

For me I feel this is one of the many situations that need to be addressed in greater detail, as its not something that is not discussed when you go through the process of having a child diagnosed with Autism… They don’t look into the impact it has on the family dynamics, how Mum and Dad feel and what it means for them now and in the future… There is nothing to guide the parents through the process of grieving along with the many other emotions you may experience…

The impact of this process is not just the here and now it can also surface emotions from situations that occurred when you were younger as emotions are like that, they will appear from what seems no where… It’s about understanding that you need to be aware of this and know it’s okay to acknowledge them as they arise.  To feel the grief, loss and sadness when you find out the obstacle may be greater than you thought, is okay… To understand that the process is different for you and your partner.  Men and women grieve differently and therefore the path or process you take will also be very different as well.

Most importantly you need to know you are not alone on this journey and that there are ways that you can work through this grief without it being detrimental to your journey…

For me grief impacted me physically.  I was unable to eat properly for many years without feeling ill. It challenged me in many ways as I needed to eat to have the energy but felt ill when I did, but as I worked through the grief process I was able to work through understanding me and how I could overcome this obstacle to better nurture my family…

For some time alcohol also became my friend.  It was a way to relax and unwind.  It made a stressful day seem so much easier, only I could not see that I was not gaining anything from doing this.  I was sabotaging me and the journey I was destined to travel.  Now when I look back it was a way to ease the pain of what was happening, and once I realised this I did begin to change things and soon realised that I could handle the grief on my own.  I could move forward and become the best version of me, so I can create good foundations for my family…

You can do the same and it can all begin today.  Yes I am here for you and will be happy to guide you to better understand the grief you and your partner may be experiencing so you can re-ignite the flame from within and discover the happiness that you can share with everyone :-)