R U OK ?

When is a good time to say “R U Ok ?”  to a parent of a child with Autism ? 

A great question that I will share some thoughts on with you today…

Firstly I would like to share a little about ‘R U OK ?’ Day for those who may not know what this is about…

R U OK ? is a suicide prevention charity that aims to start life-changing conversations by creating a more connected world. The Australian organisation was established in 2009 with the intention of ensuring all Australians realise a little question can make a big difference to those people struggling with life. In 2016 R U OK Day ? is being held on the 8th September.

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This organisation is about Suicide Prevention but what I would like to share is the understanding that if more people in our communities were to take notice and share compassion to families ‘Living Life On The Spectrum’ by asking if they are okay rather than staring or being judgemental we would start seeing a lot more families coping better with the journey they are travelling…

From a community perspective I understand its not easy to know what is best, as you don’t want to offend or cause more drama than there is. I also know for many it is not something you have been exposed to before which means you may have an element of intrigue to what their life is really like but would not dare ask for fear of offending or maybe you may rather not know as what you are observing is all too hard for your way of thinking and that is okay… What is not okay for many of these families is when someone stares at them when things are not going to plan, when people share their views on how they should parent their child judging and criticising when they have no idea what is really going on in the lives of families living with Autism…  At a time when all is falling apart for families of children with Autism parents already want the world to swallow them whole but that is not going to happen so they will do their best to diffuse the obstacle they are dealing with in the best way they can for everyone’s benefit…

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So, when is a good time to ask R U OK ?

Anytime you see a parent struggling is a great time to ask this question… Many parents are struggling within so they may just appreciate someone asking if they are ok… Then there is the parents that dread the meltdown in public with their child.  Yes whether the child has Autism or not you asking this question may just be what helps this person through the day… I know families ‘Living Life On The Spectrum’ may not initially give you the response you would like, but can I share when a child is having a meltdown it consumes all your being as a parent to resolve the issue at hand knowing that there is so many watching. ‘Together We Can Make A Difference’ which is why I am sharing this today.  Can you imagine how wonderful it would be for a family that is having a really bad day to have someone show compassion and care rather than judgement and criticism.  More often than not you may not be able to assist due to the situation, but at least you have honoured them by showing you care and I promise you they will remember this later on when everything is calm again…

On September the 8th please take the time to say R U OK ?
to anyone that may seem to be struggling with their day…

To find out more on how a conversation could change a life I recommend you take a look at this FREE Ebook which shares with you some key elements for you to increase your knowledge and understanding of how Autism impacts families within all of our communities and when perceptions are changed how much value it will be for all families ‘Living Life On The Spectrum’…

Changing Perceptions