Change

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Change is a very interesting topic for every one of us.  It’s something we all fear, rather than embracing with ease and grace.  It impacts us in so many ways yet people forget that children with Autism are the same too. When new things happen big or small it impacts them greater than it does us generally.

Schooling is one of the biggest changes that occur for these children and at this time of year their is anxiety for a lot of families in this situation no matter what age their children may be.  They can thrive or flounder depending on so many factors, but when everyone works together you can achieve the transformation that needs to take place for all involved to cope with the situation…

Last year our son entered High School which was a huge change from his primary school.  There is so many differences, with people, boundaries, noise, buildings and so much more that we cannot even see or feel like they do… What I did though is I looked at from a different perspective to have a better understanding of how he felt too.

Imagine you are about to start a new job.  You arrive on the grounds where this job is located.  It’s busy and lots is happening.  You enter a room that you may or may not of seen before.  The environment is different, people are different, the way things are done is different, the rooms are all different, meal times are different, overall expectations are different. This is a lot to cope with when you have established new routines and boundaries as they have all changed.  Your not sure what you will do in the beginning and it can creates confusion.  What is right? What is wrong? What can I and can’t I do? Will they understand me?

The stress is building and you don’t know who to turn to, as you don’t know anyone in the room who understands you…

Can you feel the anxiety building ? See how easy it is for a situation to lead to frustration? As a parent it was not ’til I viewed it this way did I really understand the obstacles that were in our sons way.  I also could now see why it can be such a challenge for staff that are working with our children as they are not going to know what will trigger a meltdown at any given time…  We have been with them for so long, that we have been given insight of how our child may respond, and I am sure you would all agree that new environments can throw us all into chaos when we are not sure what is happening…

With this in mind I would like you all to consider how can we expect these children to mould into something new when we as adults would need time to work through the emotions, feelings and change too.  Change that can trigger all sorts of situations within every one of us and by allowing any child time to process this, the outcomes will be more desirable.  Everyone can  achieve what they desire as long as these children are given the time we would give ourselves when we start something new.