Achieving Milestones with ASD Children

hitting the target

Setting out to achieve goals with our ASD children is not always as easy as we would like it to be but can I tell you, the reward when you succeed is amazing.

Every day and every week of our journey is a gift as you just don’t know what surprises you will unwrap. It’s an adventure with twists and turns, ups and downs as well as highs and lows.  All of which keep us on our toes… This week I sit here filled with so much pride knowing that we have just achieved one of our biggest obstacles as I refused to give in or give up and it has been so worthwhile… Being on target to achieve something with our children is a mission that can be achieved, it just may take more time then you planned in the beginning.

For those who may not know our son is classified as non-verbal which brings a lot of frustration when things don’t go to plan or he can’t communicate his understandings and emotions.  This has often led to major meltdowns which we have been working towards reducing for some time, as it was a behaviour he learnt from when he was younger… Yes, this is far from being an overnight success, but rather a work in progress, as there are elements that we don’t account for that arise when introducing new concepts…

It has taken persistence, endurance, perseverance and determination from me to continue no matter what. I have had to change the approach we have taken on many occasions to meet our sons growth and understanding as well as our families needs whether it be due to gaining greater knowledge, the strategies no longer working or our son getting older. We also introduced natural remedies in the form of Bush Flower Essences to assist in many areas of our lives, with his Frustration he experiences being one of our priorities.

At 13 years of age our son is 6ft 2in and needless to say
a meltdown in this household is not ideal
and this week we took the huge step towards changing this… 

Prior to this event the way he moved and the look I got there would have been no turning back, especially as he has been unwell.  It would have been all over, with it turning into a major disaster.  Instead I embraced the moment and dissolved what could have potentially been a major meltdown. We had the screaming, the hitting of the wall, sister and I jumping of the seat and the look of disaster from our ASD boy that he was about to go into full meltdown. I stood there and just responded with the word “calm” and did no more. Not even move until he sat down again. When he seemed to have settled I approached with his natural spray we have been using and looked at sorting his technology issue. Even with it taking 3 goes over a period of time we still succeeded in not having a full blown meltdown… At first I could not believe what was happening and still stood in hesitation waiting for what had been the norm for so long but no, not a thing…

It shows that when you have the desire to win deep within,
anything is possible no matter how hard it seems…

As hard as it may seem and honestly I have been there and wanted to just give up as it felt like doors were slamming in my face and just as I opened a new door there was a brick wall waiting for you. It was if you were destined to disaster and essentially I was as this is all I could see. I continually was focused on what wasn’t happening rather than looking at what I was working towards.  I had to change my ways to see that the rewards I desired would be achieved all in good time, which meant me being open to new things as well as our son. It meant building a relationship that connected us in ways that he knew he would be understood by someone. It was about our son knowing he could have his needs met without presenting his frustration in the way he had previously learnt…

For me the highlight in all this was not only being able to achieve this it was that he moved on quickly which meant his night ended with him being full of laughs and chatting, along with allowing his sister to commentate a pingu video clip he was watching, which he thought was rather funny.  Then once in bed he was being cheeky. I said to him “Are you being cheeky ?” which he replied “I Cheeky”. This is from our boy who is developing his speech made this mumma extra proud…

Now I will leave you with one of  my favourite lines which I often share
in our amazing Facebook Community Autism Living Life On the Spectrum

“Turn Obstacles Into Opportunities…”

obstacles into opportunities